When there’s a problem on the team, people are going to talk about it. Usually it’s in hushed tones while at work, or it’s the hot topic at the coffee shop or bar after everyone’s shift. When someone vents or complains to a specific person, it’s usually because they feel safe sharing their thoughts with … Continue reading Connecting Others to a Resolution Plan
Individuals in conflict with one another each carry into it a complex mix of personal history, biases, fears, and needs. They are also the only ones that know exactly what transpired from the beginning of the conflict to the moment it was identified for resolution. Each needs to be able to express their perspective honestly, … Continue reading A Successful Process for Conflict Resolution
When someone’s behavior is causing tension, fear can easily get in your way of having an honest conversation with them about how they’re showing up. While you might generate your own unique set of fears for the situation you’re in, there is one that pops up often: What if it goes horribly wrong and I … Continue reading Resilience is the Result of Saying the Thing That Needs to Be Said
All thriving teams have a few things in common - they share the same purpose and goals; individuals on the team understand their roles and are capable of performing their responsibilities; and they all commit to values and ground rules that keep them working in sync. Most importantly, they care about one another and will … Continue reading Say the Thing That Needs to Be Said…Out of Care and Support
Saying the thing that needs to be said is easier said than done. Whether we’re putting ourselves out there by expressing a unique idea, pointing out an obstacle that is getting in someone’s way, or holding others to shared standards that it appears they’re falling short of, a whole host of scary “What if’s…” start … Continue reading Say the Thing That Needs to Be Said
As a leader, everyone on your team has created an impression of who you are and how you operate. Some of it is based on their own experience, some of it is based on rumor, all of it is subject to their unique perception. Whether the picture being painted is rosy or thorny, true or … Continue reading Want to Grow as a Leader? Here’s One Way to Ask Your Team For the Feedback You’ll Need.
In our lives we often know what is “good for us,” and yet we don’t do it. Eating healthy. Getting enough sleep. Disconnecting with our phone and connecting with loved ones instead. As a leader, you may know it is “good for you” to go out and get feedback from your team - sustaining a … Continue reading That Time When You Know You Should Go Out and Get Feedback, Yet You Don’t.
As a leader, why is it your responsibility to go out and get feedback from your team? In the workplace, most people haven’t been conditioned to candidly tell you, their boss, what you’re doing that’s causing strain on the team or project. It also doesn’t necessarily occur to them to point out to you what … Continue reading Not Getting Candid Feedback From Your Team When You Ask For It? Try This First.
Getting on the same page is all about getting to mutual understanding. When we miss opportunities to do that, it often leads to calamity, confusion, and conflict. Sometimes it leads to memorable network comedy...
When two or more people get together to do anything, they're all bringing with them to the interaction a lifetime of stories, emotions, fears, needs, hopes, and expectations that drive their action and behavior. Often times things go great, the special mix they create together leads to fun, creativity, and connection. Often times things don't … Continue reading Exploring the Intersection of Getting On the Same Page and Conflict Resolution