When there’s a problem on the team, people are going to talk about it. Usually it’s in hushed tones while at work, or it’s the hot topic at the coffee shop or bar after everyone’s shift. When someone vents or complains to a specific person, it’s usually because they feel safe sharing their thoughts with … Continue reading Connecting Others to a Resolution Plan
Individuals in conflict with one another each carry into it a complex mix of personal history, biases, fears, and needs. They are also the only ones that know exactly what transpired from the beginning of the conflict to the moment it was identified for resolution. Each needs to be able to express their perspective honestly, … Continue reading A Successful Process for Conflict Resolution
If you manage or lead other people, it’s worth the effort to build up your conflict resolution tool box. Chances are that several times throughout a workday, you’ll discover conflicts, some will be brought to you, and you may even become aware that you’ve caused a few. However they get identified, once they’re in your … Continue reading What Does Successful Conflict Resolution Look Like?
While all conflict is unique based on its content and what the people involved are bringing to it, there exists a common blueprint at their inception that, once identified, can help you recognize and resolve it in its early stages. How Does a Conflict Start? The precursor of any conflict can be defined as the … Continue reading How Conflict is Born
Conflict is a loaded word, and it often gets a bad rap because we’re accustomed to recognizing conflict in its extreme form - arguments, fighting, constant complaining, or visible drama playing out before us. Being in or near that kind of energy is daunting, being the one to have to do something about it can … Continue reading Don’t Tolerate Conflict
At Vestalia Hospitality, saying the thing that needs to be said to one another is essential in feedback and accountability because it gets us past roadblocks that are preventing us from meeting shared goals and showing up within our values. We talk a lot about why it’s important, what’s gained when it happens, why it’s … Continue reading Say the Thing That Needs to be Said…a Story from Ann Kim
When someone’s behavior is causing tension, fear can easily get in your way of having an honest conversation with them about how they’re showing up. While you might generate your own unique set of fears for the situation you’re in, there is one that pops up often: What if it goes horribly wrong and I … Continue reading Resilience is the Result of Saying the Thing That Needs to Be Said
All thriving teams have a few things in common - they share the same purpose and goals; individuals on the team understand their roles and are capable of performing their responsibilities; and they all commit to values and ground rules that keep them working in sync. Most importantly, they care about one another and will … Continue reading Say the Thing That Needs to Be Said…Out of Care and Support
Saying the thing that needs to be said is easier said than done. Whether we’re putting ourselves out there by expressing a unique idea, pointing out an obstacle that is getting in someone’s way, or holding others to shared standards that it appears they’re falling short of, a whole host of scary “What if’s…” start … Continue reading Say the Thing That Needs to Be Said
As a leader, everyone on your team has created an impression of who you are and how you operate. Some of it is based on their own experience, some of it is based on rumor, all of it is subject to their unique perception. Whether the picture being painted is rosy or thorny, true or … Continue reading Want to Grow as a Leader? Here’s One Way to Ask Your Team For the Feedback You’ll Need.