How Conflict is Born

While all conflict is unique based on its content and what the people involved are bringing to it, there exists a common blueprint at their inception that, once identified, can help you recognize and resolve it in its early stages. How Does a Conflict Start? The precursor of any conflict can be defined as the … Continue reading How Conflict is Born →

Say the Thing That Needs to be Said…a Story from Ann Kim

At Vestalia Hospitality, saying the thing that needs to be said to one another is essential in feedback and accountability because it gets us past roadblocks that are preventing us from meeting shared goals and showing up within our values. We talk a lot about why it’s important, what’s gained when it happens, why it’s … Continue reading Say the Thing That Needs to be Said…a Story from Ann Kim →

Resilience is the Result of Saying the Thing That Needs to Be Said

When someone’s behavior is causing tension, fear can easily get in your way of having an honest conversation with them about how they’re showing up. While you might generate your own unique set of fears for the situation you’re in, there is one that pops up often: What if it goes horribly wrong and I … Continue reading Resilience is the Result of Saying the Thing That Needs to Be Said →

Say the Thing That Needs to Be Said…Out of Care and Support

All thriving teams have a few things in common - they share the same purpose and goals; individuals on the team understand their roles and are capable of performing their responsibilities; and they all commit to values and ground rules that keep them working in sync. Most importantly, they care about one another and will … Continue reading Say the Thing That Needs to Be Said…Out of Care and Support →

Want to Grow as a Leader? Here’s One Way to Ask Your Team For the Feedback You’ll Need.

As a leader, everyone on your team has created an impression of who you are and how you operate. Some of it is based on their own experience, some of it is based on rumor, all of it is subject to their unique perception. Whether the picture being painted is rosy or thorny, true or … Continue reading Want to Grow as a Leader? Here’s One Way to Ask Your Team For the Feedback You’ll Need. →

What “Yes, and…” Can Do For Collaborations

"Yes, and..." By nature all collaborations are creative - they describe the act of people coming together to produce something that doesn't already exist. A collaboration will result in greater success if everyone participating in it feels comfortable contributing their ideas (however wild or off the established path) and there is willingness from everyone to … Continue reading What “Yes, and…” Can Do For Collaborations →

Setting the Stage for Sharing Feedback That Feels Hard To Give

It's still March, and we're still exploring different types of conversations that pop up a lot in our day-to-day at Vestalia (and, let's face it, in all parts of our lives). Turning the spotlight on feedback this week. Initiating conversations where you need to share feedback with a person to get them back on track … Continue reading Setting the Stage for Sharing Feedback That Feels Hard To Give →

How To Get To Your Truth Without Blame or Judgment

We're about to enter a season filled with joy...and frustration. As you bump up against friends, family, and colleagues that are showing up in a way that leaves you sad, stressed, or angry, don't avoid them or pour fuel on the fire - consider getting it out in the open in a way that fosters … Continue reading How To Get To Your Truth Without Blame or Judgment →

How Perfectionism Can Get In the Way of Speaking Your Truth

Back again with some more food for thought on speaking truths... How Perfectionism Can Get In the Way of Speaking Your Truth by Becky Lemon, 1/28/18 Speaking your truth without blame or judgment is one of the most powerful ways you can show up in every aspect of your life and be seen. … Continue reading How Perfectionism Can Get In the Way of Speaking Your Truth →

Integrating Who You Are With Who You Present Yourself to Be

If you haven't noticed, I've been a bit excited lately about the concept of speaking truths. Well, I'm still excited about it, there's a lot going on in that arena! With that in mind, read on about how speaking your truth is related to awareness of what makes you, you: Speaking Truths: Integrating Who You … Continue reading Integrating Who You Are With Who You Present Yourself to Be →