Add Three Things to Increase Understanding and Choices

Sometimes we’re so deeply conditioned to see the world from our own point of view that we aren’t even aware that we may be missing a bigger picture.  It’s easy to make an assumption, jump to a conclusion, or determine a solution to a problem in a matter of seconds by drawing solely on our … Continue reading Add Three Things to Increase Understanding and Choices

Say the Thing That Needs to be Said…a Story from Ann Kim

At Vestalia Hospitality, saying the thing that needs to be said to one another is essential in feedback and accountability because it gets us past roadblocks that are preventing us from meeting shared goals and showing up within our values.  We talk a lot about why it’s important, what’s gained when it happens, why it’s … Continue reading Say the Thing That Needs to be Said…a Story from Ann Kim

Resilience is the Result of Saying the Thing That Needs to Be Said

When someone’s behavior is causing tension, fear can easily get in your way of having an honest conversation with them about how they’re showing up.  While you might generate your own unique set of fears for the situation you’re in, there is one that pops up often: What if it goes horribly wrong and I … Continue reading Resilience is the Result of Saying the Thing That Needs to Be Said

Say the Thing That Needs to Be Said…Out of Care and Support

All thriving teams have a few things in common - they share the same purpose and goals; individuals on the team understand their roles and are capable of performing their responsibilities; and they all commit to values and ground rules that keep them working in sync.  Most importantly, they care about one another and will … Continue reading Say the Thing That Needs to Be Said…Out of Care and Support

Say the Thing That Needs to Be Said

Saying the thing that needs to be said is easier said than done.  Whether we’re putting ourselves out there by expressing a unique idea, pointing out an obstacle that is getting in someone’s way, or holding others to shared standards that it appears they’re falling short of, a whole host of scary “What if’s…” start … Continue reading Say the Thing That Needs to Be Said

Want to Grow as a Leader?  Here’s One Way to Ask Your Team For the Feedback You’ll Need. 

As a leader, everyone on your team has created an impression of who you are and how you operate.  Some of it is based on their own experience, some of it is based on rumor, all of it is subject to their unique perception.  Whether the picture being painted is rosy or thorny, true or … Continue reading Want to Grow as a Leader?  Here’s One Way to Ask Your Team For the Feedback You’ll Need. 

That Time When You Know You Should Go Out and Get Feedback, Yet You Don’t. 

In our lives we often know what is “good for us,” and yet we don’t do it.  Eating healthy. Getting enough sleep. Disconnecting with our phone and connecting with loved ones instead.  As a leader, you may know it is “good for you” to go out and get feedback from your team - sustaining a … Continue reading That Time When You Know You Should Go Out and Get Feedback, Yet You Don’t. 

Not Getting Candid Feedback From Your Team When You Ask For It? Try This First.

As a leader, why is it your responsibility to go out and get feedback from your team? In the workplace, most people haven’t been conditioned to candidly tell you, their boss, what you’re doing that’s causing strain on the team or project.  It also doesn’t necessarily occur to them to point out to you what … Continue reading Not Getting Candid Feedback From Your Team When You Ask For It? Try This First.

Humility, Curiosity, and Getting On the Same Page

In my role as a leader, a partner, a mom, and a person on this earth, I am constantly in danger of believing that: I know more about a problem presented to me and how to solve it than anyone else in it. I know more about what is needed for a project or initiative … Continue reading Humility, Curiosity, and Getting On the Same Page